I was sitting, petting my not-so-little puppy this morning and started to wonder if she gets enough love and attention. I have been busy the past 2 weeks and don’t feel like she’s been given the attention (or training) that I promised when I got her. I then started to think about my children. If I felt my puppy might not be getting enough attention then certainly my children weren’t either (as I spend a great amount more time with the pup). And, that thought led to wondering about other people in my life and how I can sometimes be self-focused. Other thoughts then arrived along with questions. And the realization that I frequently say, “I’m too busy” for more things than I should.
I am quite fortunate in that my friends frequently email, call or text me to see how my life is. They leave little notes on my Facebook wall or text letting me know that they are thinking about me. They make time for me. But, do I make time for them? And how often when I am with them, am I thinking about the 100 other things that I need to do? I have one friend, in particular, who is so great about texting me to say ‘hi’, to wish me a happy Wednesday or Friday or Tuesday or whenever. I tried to think back to when I might have done something similar for her without provocation. I couldn’t come up with more than a few times and I would consider myself a fairly thoughtful person. But am I really?
How many times have we told someone we’ll ‘talk to them later’ or given our children, who want nothing more than a hug, a brush off… stating that we are too busy or worse… giving them a half second hug in return, as if their own love and thoughtfulness wasn’t appreciated. I am definitely guilty of doing this on occasion.
So, the next week (yes, starting at the middle of a week and the end for some people!) try to offer the people in your life your full attention. Listen to or spend quality (uninterrupted, unconditional) time with your friends, your family, your little people might be trying to say to you. Listen with patience, try and put anything else you might be dealing with, out of your mind, turn the t.v. off, step away from the computer… whatever it is for you. It can be so difficult especially when lives seem to be overstuffed with responsibilities and activities. When we are trying to juggle chores, meals, work, and time for ourselves, but, what you are offering someone, when you give them your full attention, is a gift that is priceless. You are letting that person know that they are important. That you care about them… that they mean something to you. It might be the only time in their day where they get a chance to feel this way.
Maybe I am more guilty of this than most 🙂 But, I already know what a difference this will make with the people in my own life. As for my puppy, she’s probably ok… we often eat our meals together, sleep in the same room (omg she is a snorer!!), and she sent me out in a foot of snow, in my pajamas, to help her find her missing bouncy ball. Thankfully I was paying attention or I would never have known where it was 🙂